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Saturday, July 3, 2010

And so it ends...

About a year ago I had sex with this guy that I knew for a little while. He had asked me about it several times and I consistently turned him down. This one particular night I was extra bored and he looked extra tasty... probably due to the insane amounts of alcohol I had consumed in addition to that pesky boredom. It was a total bust... literally. He stuck it in for about 12 seconds and that was the end of that. I told all my friends, and his friends, because I was pissed off.

Since then, he asked me several more times to let him prove himself. I was very hesitant about the whole thing because I am not big on sexual disappointment OR premature ejaculation. I did eventually give in... after he got a girlfriend. They had been together for a few weeks and we were at a party. He sent her home and came back and fucked ME. In the following weeks his girlfriend and I became good friends. I didn't say anything for quite sometime and then she took a vacation. We had sex again. I don't know what was happening in my mind, but I decided to tell her the truth about the first time. I left out the fact that we had just fucked a night or two before I told her. They stayed together.

In the following weeks things were tense... they broke up... and then for a couple weeks almost every night he was fucking me. He talked a lot of shit saying he was going to break me off every night and how we were going to get kinky, etc. Little did I know that he was talking shit about his ex girlfriend BUT he was seeing her behind my back. Now don't get me wrong, I had and still have NO feelings for this piece of shit... I just wanted some dick, plain and simple. I am NOT cool with lies, period. I want the honest to God truth and I want to not have to worry while your cock is in my mouth that it was just all up in some other bitch. I would slice a dude's dick off for some grimy shit like that.

Some men are just disgusting excuses for human beings.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Once upon a time there was a girl that loved a boy. She loved him so much that she thought they would spend their entire lives together. That little girl was stupid and naive to think that, at such a young age, she had found her soulmate. She let that boy tear her apart from the inside out, and she was never to be the same again.

Some happy ending, isn't it? Well, that's not my ending but that IS my story. Thankfully, I'm still alive and still have the opportunity to change things. Some people handle that "young love" shit better than others. Me, I got hung up on it - everything that he said was wrong with me I fixed, I became obsessed with my weight, my hair, my eyebrows, my toenails, etc. Anything he ever commented on became an obsession of mine until I became overloaded with worries, self esteem issues, and Obsessive Compulsive-like rituals. I never evolved into the definition of "beautiful" that he wanted. Thank GOD that I see myself differently now, and I know that I am, in fact, beautiful the way I am. I don't have to pluck my eyebrows and trim my toenails every single day - nor do I need to be blonde - EVER, and I most certainly don't have to starve myself until I'm under 100lbs because "you can't fuck a fat chick standing up."

This blog, though it might sound like it, is not self-pitying. I just thought of all these things today because my friend is in a situation like that. She's trying to be someone she isn't because of what her "great" boyfriend thinks she should be. Maybe at one time I could understand that, but I have come past that point in my life, now I just want to beat some sense into her. Everyone makes mistakes, we make stupid decisions and we waste time in our lives on things that should never be relevant - but if I could save just one person from the hell that pretending creates, I would want it to be her. She is such a beautiful woman, with such a kind heart, and to see her bend until she breaks would be a tragedy.

If you lie to yourself enough you can start to believe it, and that is a dangerous power to have when someone else plants the seeds.

Monday, March 1, 2010

Karma

I haven't written in quite a while - these have been some hectic times, but I'll pop in and out, I suppose. I'm feeling a need to talk tonight.

When I was younger I was totally out of touch with reality and how the things I did affected things that were done to me. Through the years, I've seen so much, and eventually I realized that doing good things gets you good things in return, generally speaking. I had this realization when I was walking down the street, when I first moved to the city, and a homeless man asked me for some change. All I had was a 5 dollar bill and a debit card, so I just gave him the 5 dollars. Later that day I was at the grocery store and I was grabbing some bottom-shelf ketchup when there, staring up at me was President Andrew Jackson. I looked around to see if the owner was anywhere in sight, and apparently no one needed any ketchup because I was alone. I picked it up and I automatically thought back to that homeless man. It was like the two events were connected to each other somehow, and that was the final confirmation for me that karma does, in fact, exist - good AND bad.

Though I believe fully in karma and the repercussions bad actions can lead to, my sex addiction has no fear. My life is littered with dysfunctional relationships, and I know why. I've ruined plenty myself. I have single-handedly torn apart marriages, made women break up with men they've been with for years. I'm not proud of that, but it has become part of me because I was that woman once. I am now being punished for all the wrong I've done. I deserve it, I do, but I pray every night that it ends sooner rather than later and I can find someone who "gets" me.

One time, a couple years ago, I was having a party at my house. My female friend and I were playing beer pong and we were holding the table most of the night. It was a great night. There were upwards of 30 people at this party and around 2am it started to thin out a little bit. We still continued to play beerpong. My friend was really drunk and she wanted to go home, so she and her boyfriend left. About 20 minutes later, it was just myself and two or three people in my house, and her boyfriend came back. I asked him why he left her and he said because he wasn't tired and he just wanted to chill. While we were talking and smoking cigarettes the other people left and he asked me if he could stay the rest of the night with me. I said sure, that I would get him a blanket and a pillow. He said he could just sleep in my bed if I didn't mind. I just shrugged my shoulders, like, whatever, if that's what you want to do. Then he said he was kind of scared to sleep beside me because he wasn't sure if he could keep his hands to himself and he thought I would tell on him if he couldn't. At first, I stayed strong, I told him that he would just have to sleep on the couch then. I even got the blanket out for him and I walked to my bedroom. I laid down in my bed and the next thing I knew he was there. He slid his hands up my shirt and squeezed my nipples between his fingers, and he said something like, "You won't tell, will you?" Then that was it, my legs wrapped around him and my tongue was down his throat. Someone's boyfriend. My friend's boyfriend. I didn't think about anything, I just remember squeezing his head between my thighs while he went down on me and loving every second of it and how I tasted myself on his lips when he kissed me. He did things to me that night that make me blush when I think about them, and that's not an easy task. I never did tell, either. I'm pretty sure she still doesn't know about that. I haven't talked to her for quite sometime - but strange thing about it is, I don't even feel guilty. I feel *bad* for betraying her trust, but guilt is not a feeling I am familiar with.

So, now, I have all these relationship woes, but how can I be mad when I look back at everything I've done to deserve them?